Sexual needs and experiences are unique for every individual. Sexuality also operates within a cultural context. There are social norms and expectations in sexual behavior. Sexual relationships outside marriage are usually met with social and religious disapproval. Premarital sex also generates distrust and disrespect and can cause the couple to focus on sex and lose interest in getting married. But when sexual relationships occur within a marriage, couples achieve greater enjoyment of sex and have greater success and stability in marriage.
It is important to realize that it is possible to have sex without love and it is also possible to be a loving couple without much sexual activity.
Intimacy is not only experienced physically, it comes with how you feel about each other, what you do with each other, and the way you talk to each other.
You should consider that:
1. Sex is something to be learn t
Learn about the physical aspects of sex and how a man and a woman respond to each other sexually. You might want to read up about the subject before the wedding night.
2. A couple may need to adjust to each other sexually
Sex is not just something that a husband and wife have with each other. It is part of a relationship and each may need time to get used to the other.
3. How you feel affects your sexual life
Sex is not just for meeting physical needs. It is an emotional experience as well because the way you feel about each other influences your desires and performance.
4. How you think affects your sexual life
Your attitudes and beliefs about sex can either inhibit or enhance sexual desire.
5. Sex requires preparation
It helps to prepare for sex by the way you think of each other. Ensure that you are reasonably relaxed and treating each other nicely before having sex.
6. Flexibility is important
Be open to different ways of having sex. What is important is that both of you feel comfortable and positive about the experience.
7. Sex includes being other-oriented
Think of ways to pleasure your partner and satisfy his/her needs.
8. Sex is not just intercourse
Sex is a long process of activities that results in mutual pleasuring and culminates in intercourse. Keep in mind that not all foreplay can lead to intercourse. At the same time, physical touching doesn’t need to be confined to foreplay time.
9.Sex can be discussed
Tell your partner what you enjoy most, where stimulation is most pleasurable and how best to do it. If you are not yet ready for lovemaking, you may want to
set a definite time in the future it to happen.
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