9 Powers of Apologizing: Communication to Heal Your Relationships

There are many powers of apologizing. They go beyond healing your relationships too encouraging open communication and repairing self-esteem. Here are the 9 powers of apologizing:

1. When you admit your mistakes and do not hide your weaknesses, other people you come across are more able to do the same. They own more courage to begin practicing the power of apologizing. You act as a role model and an encourager.

2. We all are extremely flawed. Yeah, that is the suck reality. If we were cars, we'd breakdown every 50 miles and require servicing just as often. But we are not mechanical beings. Thank goodness for that. We are Earthlings who reside on a planet of mistakes and apologies are an absolute necessity to bring balance in our lives. I am sure most Christians are aware we all constantly sin and make mistakes despite our desires to do what is right and good. We are only Earthlings.

3. When apologizing you begin to fix the problem you created and the healing process begins. By not apologizing you are merely sweeping dirt under a rug. By not apologizing you are covering up your actions hoping to get on with life. It does not work that way. The problem will reappear and bite you when you least expect it and at the worst time. That is one of Murphy's Law which states that the worst thing will happen the worst way and at the worst possible time.

4. If someone hurts you it is justice to have them apologize to you. For some reason this is not the case when we hurt someone. The hurting person desires your sympathy as much as you desire theirs.

5. Apologizing is giving back what you have taken. You restore the victims feeling of worthiness and self-esteem. When a person is continually damaged from someone else's actions and lack of apologies, their entire self-concept goes straight in the bin. They feel absolutely useless. Yes, not apologizing is that powerfully destructive. This principle is more so true for children. A child cannot be expected to accept other's mistakes that damage how they feel of themselves as being a part of life.

6. By having complete responsibility of your actions you possess an enormous amount of self-control. You do not become a victim of others. You become your own person. You begin to create your own destiny. By taking action and guiding your thoughts and feelings, you stop blaming others for what has happened to you and your relationships.

7. By sincerely apologizing you show effort in a relationship. You are taking action on the relationship by apologizing. That is an entire different mindset to avoiding mistakes in an attempt to "secretly get by".

8. We become greater than our desires. When asking for forgiveness you rise above your destructive inner desire to not show remorse and you become a far greater person. You no longer need to cover up your behavior as you have brought it into the light. This takes courage! Your newfound courage will roll into other areas of your life as you begin to face upto other difficult issues you had avoided in the past.

9. Apologizing produces guilt in other people for the better. They see you apologize for your mistake and compare it to their contribution to the mistake or another mistake they have made. They may become aware that what they have done is far worse then your mistake which produces guilt and possibly leads them too also apologizing. You can say apologizing has a "chain-reaction" affect.

Who would have thought there is this much power in apologizing!